Truly a Matter of The Heart
O.K. I will try this again. I was well on my way with this one and the Electricity went off. Lets see- Where was I. O.K. I have to start over.
Last week I was in a really ugly place - I was in a funk and I was truly enjoying where I was. I had let someone else's opinion and world view really get to me. I gave that world view the power to tick me off and was marinating in ugly for a couple of days. (I apologize to my husband and family and co-workers for being such a SHREW.)
Anyway Thursday was our monthly staff meeting. I work in a place that is all about Jesus and our staff meetings are such a treat. This one was a special treat to me because it was just what I needed to hear and the only one that knew was God Himself.
One of the topics - the main topic- was about how things get all distorted and out of shape when our heart does not match our words. I know that when someone offends me (and a lot of times they are totally unaware of the offense) I will take it as a personal challenge and make a crusade out of letting them know how what they did or what they said affected me. I play every possible scenario over in my head.(You would think that after 53 years of doing this and never once does the scenario I practiced ever come to the stage I would learn, I am in the crock-pot in more than one subject.) Anyway I was beginning to think that I should take some time and write a letter to this individual and explain where they were so wrong yada yada yada. Then Pastor said that sometimes instead of trying to set someone straight to the betterment of the relationship the only one we need to set straight is ourselves and our heart. A lot of times the things we need to GET OFF OF OUR CHEST are the things that we need to keep in our chest until we have cleaned the ugly marinade off of them.
How can I expect someone to accept me as I am if I am not willing to accept them as they are? How can I expect others to love the people I love if I will not entertain the possibility of loving the people they love? How can I expect others to tolerate people important to me if I will not tolerate people important to them?
That truly made a lot of sense to me. I know that not everyone shares what I think is important, Not everyone shares my world view. I do know that I love my family very much and I do not share their world view on everything but that does not make me love them any less. So if my heart and my words are to truly match I need to work on my heart not on theirs. The best place to begin working on my heart is in those places that I feel I am justified in my opinion. A lot of times I get out of the trunk just long enough to realize I am not done yet - I need a little (sometimes a lot) longer in the marinade but I need to make sure the marinade is the right one.
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Last week I was in a really ugly place - I was in a funk and I was truly enjoying where I was. I had let someone else's opinion and world view really get to me. I gave that world view the power to tick me off and was marinating in ugly for a couple of days. (I apologize to my husband and family and co-workers for being such a SHREW.)
Anyway Thursday was our monthly staff meeting. I work in a place that is all about Jesus and our staff meetings are such a treat. This one was a special treat to me because it was just what I needed to hear and the only one that knew was God Himself.
One of the topics - the main topic- was about how things get all distorted and out of shape when our heart does not match our words. I know that when someone offends me (and a lot of times they are totally unaware of the offense) I will take it as a personal challenge and make a crusade out of letting them know how what they did or what they said affected me. I play every possible scenario over in my head.(You would think that after 53 years of doing this and never once does the scenario I practiced ever come to the stage I would learn, I am in the crock-pot in more than one subject.) Anyway I was beginning to think that I should take some time and write a letter to this individual and explain where they were so wrong yada yada yada. Then Pastor said that sometimes instead of trying to set someone straight to the betterment of the relationship the only one we need to set straight is ourselves and our heart. A lot of times the things we need to GET OFF OF OUR CHEST are the things that we need to keep in our chest until we have cleaned the ugly marinade off of them.
How can I expect someone to accept me as I am if I am not willing to accept them as they are? How can I expect others to love the people I love if I will not entertain the possibility of loving the people they love? How can I expect others to tolerate people important to me if I will not tolerate people important to them?
That truly made a lot of sense to me. I know that not everyone shares what I think is important, Not everyone shares my world view. I do know that I love my family very much and I do not share their world view on everything but that does not make me love them any less. So if my heart and my words are to truly match I need to work on my heart not on theirs. The best place to begin working on my heart is in those places that I feel I am justified in my opinion. A lot of times I get out of the trunk just long enough to realize I am not done yet - I need a little (sometimes a lot) longer in the marinade but I need to make sure the marinade is the right one.
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